Rope References

One of the most frequently asked questions I receive, is for good references to learn more about rope bondage. While I still consider myself to always be learning, I've been compiling the list below for those who may be just starting to explore their interests in rope. If you have a recommendation to add to the lists below, shoot me an email via my contact page! Always happy to share :)

IMPORTANT NOTE-- Although there is a growing number of online tutorials, I personally always recommend checking out an ACTUAL class in person before starting to practice any type of suspension! SUSPENSION IS DANGEROUS... don't be stupid, be aware of the risk you are taking with your own safety as well as others.


Get on fetlife! It is the largest network right now of people practicing and discussing rope bondage. There are numerous articles written by very a vast array of experience levels, from advance to beginner. It's also a great place to see if there are any rope-related events in your area!

Here are some articles on fetlife that I would recommend:

Nerve & Circulation Issues  

Rope Bottoming Resources  

More Rope Links

Rope Types, Rope making & care

Useful Websites

Hardware, Hardpoints, & Suspension Info


Some books to check out about rope bondage. 

Miumi-U Teaches Japanese Shibari --NEW-- really nice picture tutorial for tying. Probably one of the easiest to follow that I've seen so far.

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage --by Midori

Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes: A Step-by-step, Illustrated Guide for Tying Sensual And Decorative Rope Bondage --Two Knotty Boys

A Guide for Rope Bottoms & Bondage Models -- by Clover 

The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up --by Evie Vane

Ai Nawa -- very good website that sells imported books and videos from Japan

The Beauty of Kinbaku -- a good book to check out for more information about the history of Japanese erotic bondage


There's a growing number of tutorial videos out there right now. Some are good...some are not so good. It can be hard to navigate the difference between a good and bad one, especially if you are just starting out. I would always suggest doing a little background research on the person making the tutorial (again, this is where fetlife comes in handy...) to see how well known they are in the community. Do they have a good reputation? etc etc...

WykD Dave - has lots of good references to check out on his youtube.

Innovative Fiber Arts - another good youtube station for some basic ties.

Bones & Rope Hipharness- really great hip harness tutorial.

Crash Restraint- lots of good tutorials to get you started.

Kissmedeadlydoll Tutorials on Vimeo!- that's right, a little shameless self promotion here. I do offer tutorials!

Shibari Study - tutorials to learn Gorgone's original Shibari designs and more.


Kinbaku Videos - some tutorials, performances, interviews etc

Kinbaku Today - great articles, read read read

Kinbaku Books - good blog to check out if you're interested in english reviews of kinbaku books & history

Kinky Clover - Clover has some great articles worth checking out in her blog.

Kankinawa- Really nice loose lay jute that needs no conditioning, the same as used by Akira Naka & Isabelle Hanikamu. 

M0cojute - where I buy my self-suspension rope. Because I am really hard on my ropes when I am self tying, I prefer a tighter lay that doesn't break down so quickly.

Knot Right Supply - all your ropey needs, all in one place!

Twisted Monk - if you prefer Hemp over Jute.

My Nawashi - probably the best priced jute rope out there right now. Although you will have to put in some work conditioning it.

Blue Diamond Trading - because I get asked this a lot... this is where I got my huge ring! I really love it!

Self-Suspension Private Lessons

Lessons are usually 3 hours in length and can be arranged for all skill levels. If you'd like to set up a lesson, please message me with some information about yourself, your current experience with rope (if any), and what really interests you about learning to self-tie. I always try to tailor the lessons to what really excites and interests you about rope... because after all, it's all about "self". 

You don't even need rope... I have several different types of ropes you can explore during the lesson to determine what you might want to purchase on your own.

Please note- the below class outlines are not necessarily "achievable" in just one lesson. Each person learns at a different pace, and moving to new levels will require practice on your own time

Beginner Fundamentals- Floor tying can be fun! 

(Pre-Req: none)

-Single column ties and which one is best for you?

-Why we self-tie: aka intentions & goals

-Discovering the best rope for you, if you don’t already have rope.. will discuss and feel the different options of rope available, the benefits & drawbacks of each, & how to treat and condition your rope

-Rope 101: the basic knots you should know, handling, tension, & using the rope to create the sensation you want

-Leg ties: ladders, mermaids, futomomos, spider-webs & improvising between all of the above to tie yourself the fuck up

-Crotch rope: because yeahhhhhh…. :)

-The basic body harness: you know, those pretty things you see all over Instagram but you don’t know WTF to do with after you’ve tied them?

-Tie Yourself to Something!: using all the above skills, students will be encouraged to tie themselves to something, or someone, or into the craziest shape that feels good to them, leveraging their own body weight.

-How to get unstuck: keeping safety in mind

Intermediate- Getting ready to fly 

 (pre-req: know how to tie a non-collapsing single column tie, futomomo or solid leg tie, understanding of the different types of knots and when to use them, basic understanding of tension when tying) (students need—at least 2 shorter ropes that are 7m in length for the base of the chest harness, and 6-8 regular 8m ropes)

-Why we self-suspend: Why do you want to do it & What do you want to achieve? Aka- intentions & goals

-Stretching for the serious self-suspender

-Functional frictions: will discuss the different types of frictions used most often and why tying your frictions well is so important!

-Hip-harnesses: will learn a basic hip harness for suspension and discuss how to make adjustments based on best placements for your body

-Chest harnesses: will start with the basic 2-band chest harness with the stem in the front, then discuss different "3rd-rope" options based on the type of suspension you want to do and what types of sensations you enjoy (ie- breathplay, restrictive, comfort, etc). Will also be introduced to tying behind your back (not necessary but a helpful skill to develop)

-Uplines: how to tie them, how to use them, safety considerations & best practices, main uplines vs. supplementary lines

-Tying off: the different options to tie off your uplines & what is best to use when...

-Air time: getting in the air by simply falling backwards (basic hip-harness suspension & movement)

-Planning out & executing your first self-suspension with multiple uplines: best practices, ideas, things to avoid, getting used to the feeling of tying in the air, distributing your body weight

-How to avoid getting stuck: the importance of always having an exit strategy!

Advanced- You’re Flying! Now what?  

(pre-req: have completed the intermediate level of tying, are comfortable with self-tying a hip-harness, leg ties, chest harness, & uplines) (students need—at least 2 shorter ropes that are 7m in length & 8-10 8m ropes)

-How do you want to challenge yourself?- aka intensions & goals

-Stretching for the serious self-suspender (helloooooo ab workouts!)

-Tying with your suspension in mind: face down/face up/sideways… experimenting with reinforcing ties to make your suspension easier on you. Aka- work smarter not harder

-Tying on the fly: improvised tying in the air, untying in the air.. the challenges and considerations

-Transitions: become the rigger and the bottom. Experiment with transitioning your body into different positions, moving the weight onto different limbs, and managing your lines while in the air

-Adding in the little things that make it fun for YOU! (pain, pleasure, meditation, sexual stimulation, breathplay, etc… after all, self-suspension is all about doing it for you)

-Coming down: transitioning to the floor, having an escape plan, & safety practices when something goes “not as planned”

Advanced- Freestyling 

 (pre-req: already very confident in self suspension with transitions) (bring your rope kit.. assuming you have your own ropes at this level)

-Using multiple hardpoints & transitioning between them.

-Hashira & Bamboo for the self-suspender- overcoming the major differences and conquering the new challenge of using a different type of point..

-The sketchy shit they tell you not to do… but you know you’re going to try it anyways. Assessing risk to make it "less-sketchy", to have a spotter or not to?, having an escape plan….

-Incorporating other aerial techniques into your suspension.

-Engineering your own ties- analyzing the structural elements of a tie & using that knowledge to build something new. “Trial & Error” methodology to test your creative rigger brain.

-Monkey See/Monkey Do- how to take a suspension sequence you saw two people performing, and adapt it to be “self-tie-able”

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